I am the only one helping and I hate everyone.


You get a call in the middle of the night.

Dad says mom is having problems breathing and doesn’t know if he should call 911. By the time you get there, dad has tried to get mom to sit up in bed and he fell.

You’re the good kid; the one who lives closest. You spend your time with both of them in the hospital and later in rehab. You make sure they get home safe and sound.

Then one day you wake up and you are in the throes of doctor appointments, emergencies, night walking, bed wetting, more falls, grocery shopping, cooking, cleaning, dad is driving when he shouldn’t…and NO ONE is helping. All of this, seemingly overnight, came upon your shoulders.

But the truth is this did not become your responsibility in a day. It was a long-drawn-out process that you unwittingly took part in.

Please, at the first inkling of change you see in your parents – talk to your siblings and others who love them. Talk to their doctor. With your team, make a plan for the future. True, you don’t know what the future holds, but, you do know it will not be the same as it was. So, act on that knowledge.

Waiting will lead you down a road of heartbreak and stress.

Otherwise, how do you pull yourself out?

Many of our members have learned to start conversations early. This has been the saving grace to disaster. Even when a sibling has no opinion or doesn’t respond, it still means you tried. We find that those who do not offer to help WILL give their opinions about your senior care acumen and it’s not always positive.

They may even try to separate you from the rest of the family and the senior. Most heart-breaking are the partners who have been together for years and now the children from a previous marriage push the partner out as the end draws near.

When you don’t know how to get the information you need, do not be surprised when you find yourself hiring an attorney. This is PRINCIPAL #3 in the

ULTIMATE CAREGIVER’S GUIDE | Mastering Senior Care Techniques

Avoiding Attorney Fees

About the Author

Do you feel frustrated with your medical care? Do doctors spend 5 minutes with you, push you out of the office, with you wondering what's going to happen? Does your insurance deny paying? You're not alone. I'm frustrated, too. This is a growing trend in healthcare. Having seen pre-insurance medicine (yes, my dad was an old country doctor), I grew up watching him spend time with his patients, giving them the best care he had to offer. I saw families trust him to help them through hospitalizations and the next crisis. As a patient advocate, my job is to see that you get the right diagnosis, the right treatment plans, and the right supplies and education to make good decisions about your health. More importantly, I will teach you the tricks of the healthcare trade. We need more healthcare consumer protection, especially for chronic illnesses like diabetes. This is what I am passionate about. I make it happen every day with thousands of patients who now know what I know about beating the healthcare system and getting the best patient care...Patient Best.

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