2023: How to Become A Better Me


2023: Becoming A Better You

The Power of Full Engagement

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What truly makes our mindset change as we go forward 


I’ll never forget the patient who walked into my office with a spider bite.  Looking over his chart, I saw he had a heart attack and a history of Crohn’s Disease, (digestive issues).  His current health was now excellent.  He didn’t seem worried about either one of these past problems. And he had slimmed down to 50 pounds less than he was.

He told me he changed his life.
I asked him how.
He explained that he was a Type A personality.
But this lifestyle was not giving him the values most important to him. He reassessed what he wanted out of his life.  He cautiously protected his energy and used it towards the things that were important to him.

He then told me about the book, The Power of Full Engagement.  Like him, I read it several times a year to remind me what’s important to me, my values, and who I want to be to others.


Should we put ourselves first in order to help others?


He put himself first by changing his diet, giving himself time to exercise, and moments to reflect. He then went to work capturing this new-found energy and spending it on those he loved.


He then told me about this life-changing book about full engagement

It is not another planner.
It is the energy we purposely put into each day.
It is the conscious effort that makes us remember why we do what we do.

This book has shaken my values out of me. I now recognize and live by them.

My days have changed because these two powerful psychologists tied my values to my ability to execute those relationships, actions, and memories that are so important to me.


Knowing the Truth Within Gives Us the Right to Feel Good


So, here are a few excerpts from their book which will give you pause to stop and think about what your next year will look like. You’ll see why I can’t help but share this way of life with you.

We live in digital times. Our rhythms are rushed, rapid-fire, and relentless. Our days are carved up into bits and bytes. We celebrate breadth rather than depth, quick reaction more than considered reflection. We cross the surface alighting for brief moments at dozens of destinations, but rarely remaining for long in any one place. We race through our lives without pausing to consider who we really want to be or where we really want to go.

We’re wired up but we’re melting down. Most of us are just trying to do the best that we can when demand exceeds our capacity. We begin to make expedient choices that get us through our days and nights but take a toll over time. We survive on too little sleep, wolf down fast foods on the run, fuel up with coffee, and cool down with alcohol and sleeping pills.

Faced with relentless demands at work [and caregiving] we become short-tempered and easily distracted. We return home from long days at work feeling exhausted and often experience our families not as a source of joy and renewal but as one more demand in an already overburdened life.  We walk around with day planners, to-do lists, [cell phones], and pop-up reminders on our computers, all designed to help us manage our time better.

We are compromised in any activity we undertake. Every one of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors has an energy consequence for better or for worse. The ultimate measure of our lives is not how much time we spend on the planet but rather how much energy we invest in the time that we have.

If you could wake up tomorrow with significantly more positive focused energy to invest at work and with your family, how significantly would that change your life for the better?

How valuable would it be to bring more positive energy and passion to the [home] and workplace?

By full engagement, we mean…

  • physically energized
  • emotionally connected
  • mentally focused and
  • spiritually aligned

Managing our energy means setting up and leading our own families, building value into our relationships with our own actions.

This always transforms us both individually and organizationally.

And YOU will become the person you want to be in 2023!

About the Author

Do you feel frustrated with your medical care? Do doctors spend 5 minutes with you, push you out of the office, with you wondering what's going to happen? Does your insurance deny paying? You're not alone. I'm frustrated, too. This is a growing trend in healthcare. Having seen pre-insurance medicine (yes, my dad was an old country doctor), I grew up watching him spend time with his patients, giving them the best care he had to offer. I saw families trust him to help them through hospitalizations and the next crisis. As a patient advocate, my job is to see that you get the right diagnosis, the right treatment plans, and the right supplies and education to make good decisions about your health. More importantly, I will teach you the tricks of the healthcare trade. We need more healthcare consumer protection, especially for chronic illnesses like diabetes. This is what I am passionate about. I make it happen every day with thousands of patients who now know what I know about beating the healthcare system and getting the best patient care...Patient Best.

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