Caregiving Frustrations


Try to remember that caring for others in our lives can be incredibly satisfying, extremely negative, and a little bit of everything in-between. All of this is to be expected. Caregiving frustrations also mean there are better days and tolerable days and even joyful days ahead.

Feeling frustration when you don’t feel a loved one is acting in their own best interest leads to a resignation which leads to guilt, and then we worry if we are not doing enough. It is commonly seen but not recognized as all these emotions wrapped up into one.

Caregiving frustrations. Sound familiar?

It gets worse as aging parents become less independent and more disabled.

Are you at the peak or valley of adult care frustrations?

In more positive sibling circumstances, there is respect and gratitude, when each takes on what they do best and what they can contribute.

Or is there resentment by the adult child who takes on primary responsibility for the care of a parent, and whose siblings don’t offer to help?

Here is some of what we all go through with caregiving frustration:

  • Fear of what the future holds and losing control someday
  • Feelings of guilt for not doing enough or doing the right thing
  • Joy in taking care of someone who took care of you first
  • Anger that it could have been done better but just didn’t know how
  • Embarrassed not to know what to do or how to act around a disability
  • Share your feeling with others. Talk about your feelings of loss, anger, hopelessness, or even joy.

These are real feelings, and you absolutely have a right to share them.

Find support. You don’t have to go it alone — confide in a spouse, sibling, counselor or close friend.

Share responsibilities. Learn to ask for help sooner than later and line people up to help. They would, if they just knew what you wanted them to do.

Acknowledge that you can’t do it all perfectly. Remember, you don’t need it perfect.  We all have things we do well and there are things we need help with.

The emotions described above are real and they need to be acknowledged. And they are ever-changing, often daily.

Find the special person who has been through what you are going through and grab hold of them.

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Who needs guilt when we can have joy, peace, and love?

About the Author

Do you feel frustrated with your medical care? Do doctors spend 5 minutes with you, push you out of the office, with you wondering what's going to happen? Does your insurance deny paying? You're not alone. I'm frustrated, too. This is a growing trend in healthcare. Having seen pre-insurance medicine (yes, my dad was an old country doctor), I grew up watching him spend time with his patients, giving them the best care he had to offer. I saw families trust him to help them through hospitalizations and the next crisis. As a patient advocate, my job is to see that you get the right diagnosis, the right treatment plans, and the right supplies and education to make good decisions about your health. More importantly, I will teach you the tricks of the healthcare trade. We need more healthcare consumer protection, especially for chronic illnesses like diabetes. This is what I am passionate about. I make it happen every day with thousands of patients who now know what I know about beating the healthcare system and getting the best patient care...Patient Best.

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